It didn't take long for me to realize that this was the guy I was going to marry. He was kind, loved Jesus, and was an incredible listener. After the wedding, Cole and I spent a lot of time together and when we house sat we would talk all night about everything we could possibly think of. Cole was a gentle man and I was hard on myself. One night, I was feeling incredibly insecure and self conscious and I asked him why he wanted to be with me. I struggled with acne and wouldn't consider myself as flawless as all the poster girls. He pulled me close, wrapped his hands around my waist, and kissed me. He has always made me feel like the most beautiful woman in the world and it's been like that since we started dating. Cole never let me down. He was always there when I needed him and even when I didn't know I needed him. After he kissed me, I realized I didn't need anyone else to make me feel beautiful. Cole already saw that inside and out and I was ready to accept that myself.
Our proposal was simple. It was perfectly Cole. Cole is a simple man. I knew he was going to propose on this specific weekend, but didn't know how. We were down in Idyllwild, CA which was a childhood place for him. He visited his aunt and uncle down there every summer and it held a very special place in his heart. He wanted to show his beautiful girlfriend the most beautiful place. So, as the crazy ultra runners that we are, we ran to the top of this mountain that had an amazing view of the valleys and the San Juacinto Wilderness. We were walking on top of this mountain meandering, taking pictures, and there were people kind of in every possibly romantic spot. Eventually, I started to get cold and we decided to head back down. Cole got all nervous and frantically ran back over to his running pack, then came walking back with the ring in his hand. Well, he held it out to me and said "here i've got your ring!" and I was like... "WAIT what? Well Cole, you gotta ask me the question!!!" So as he holds out this ring, he asks me to marry him and of course I said yes. Shortly after, we began our trek down hill and this couple walked up to us and asked "Is this the top?" Us - Yes! They responded " How anti-climatic." We headed down and laughed our heads off at the awkward response right after Cole PROPOSED.
Cole proposed in April of 2018. The same day as the proposal we were sitting in the hot tub planning our wedding and knew exactly what we wanted. We wanted an outdoor, camping style wedding, and wanted our guests to spend all weekend with us.. not just the day. We wanted a small wedding and literally jotted down all the people we wanted at our wedding. Anyone we second guessed or hesitated we said no to. We went back and forth on so many locations and none of them really stood out to me or felt like us. It wasn't until Cole was about to leave for an 8 week European Trip to prepare for one of his running races when we found the perfect spot. My sister sent us an outdoor camping resort that was used all summer long for rafting and this was the spot. It was in our budget, we would have freedom to basically do whatever we wanted, and our guests could camp with us all weekend long. Our engagement was a a year and a half. We wanted a long engagement so we could save money and not put financial stress on our families.
Our personal style is very casual. Outdoorsy and adventurous. Cole and I, our family and friends all live busy lives and we wanted our friends to come for the whole weekend and relax and share the same love for camping and the outdoors that we do. The most important thing to me was that I was comfortable and that I looked as much like myself as I do on a regular day... but also, was the center of attention. ;)
Do you have any advice or helpful tips for others planning a wedding
Don't let too many people get involved in your wedding plans. Keep things between you and your man and involve others when you know what you want. Be clear of your vision that way others will know how to help you. Also, don't keep your grooms out of your plans brides... they want to be more involved that you maybe know. The wedding is a little about the bride, but it's not all about the bride, but about the marriage so plan it together.