Zoë Wearing The Ari Dress
So tell us, how did you meet the love of your life?
We both served 2-year missions for our church and we were in training together. He went to New England and I went to Portland, OR. We didn't reconnect until 2 years later. Once we finally reconnected we couldn't say goodbye for forever again so we went long distance for almost a year before living in the same state. We finally got engaged in February 2020.
I know this sounds crazy, but I knew I was going to marry him probably about three months into dating. We are both Christians and I prayed a lot about the relationship to know if it was right. I would pray when I was happy and when it felt like he was driving me crazy and every time my answer was the same: "just keep going." Eventually, it just felt like God was telling me "just keep going. This is going to last for forever."
I always told him that I didn't want anything big. I preferred something private and meaningful and he did just that. After a long week we were both super tired and he asked me if I wanted to go get some ice cream. The answer to that is, of course, always a yes. We went to get ice cream but didn’t realize that there was no seating. He said, “It’s okay, i’ll just take you to this cool spot I found when I took a wrong turn at work the other day.” We drove past the place we met and eventually made it to a park. We finished our ice cream and he suggested that we go on a walk. I thought that was super weird because it was freezing and we just ate ice cream but I went with it. After trudging through slushy snow and basically rolling down a super steep hill in the dark, we sat at a bench where he had me read his two favorite scripture verses. He said that I hadn't just stolen his heart, I pierced it. He continued by asking me to marry him and be his best friend :) Then we stood in line at Walgreens to pick up a prescription. It was perfectly and wonderfully normal and I loved it that way. That will forever be my favorite rusty park bench.
We got engaged in February 2020. We had planned for a longer engagement, but then the pandemic happened. It felt like our wedding plans were changing every day and I was SO STRESSED. We sat down and talked it out because I think we both just so sick of not having a solid plan. We completely ditched our original plan and basically eloped in April 2020. Of all the things going wrong, we knew that being with each other was right. To this day, I have no regrets about eloping. Our original plans were thoughtful and meticulous, but what actually happened was spontaneous and I loved that even more. About five months later we were able to perform our religious ceremony called a sealing in the Manti, Utah LDS Temple. We were able to spend that day with our families and have an intimate reception.
I feel like my style is a mix of boho and classic. I wanted to be comfortable and I knew I wanted lace, but I didn't want grandma lace if that makes any sense. I also wanted it to fit well because I am very petite. With that in mind, I didn't have very much time to go to a bunch of alterations so Wear Your Love was the perfect solution.
I was a bridesmaid for a friend in 2019 and her wedding dress was from Wear Your Love. She is also pretty petite so I remember when her dress came in the mail and she tried it on. It fit her perfectly and from then on I was pretty much set on getting my dress from Wear Your Love one day.
I actually went dress shopping with my mom, sister, and grandma just because I wanted to see what looked good on me and the style I liked best. While we were there, I found a dress and my mom cried and she really wanted me to buy it. I caved and we bought that dress. When I went to my first fitting to decide on alterations, I put it on and realized it wasn't my dress. I called my mom and showed her a picture of the Ari dress and she said, "oh Zoë that is your dress. I trust your vision." So I sold the other one and bought the Ari dress.
When my dress came in the mail I was SO EXCITED. I was also nervous because it arrived about a week before my elopement. I tried it on and it fit perfectly. It was exactly as I had pictured it to be.
I chose the Ari Dress. I filled in the back, opted for the 12-inch sweep train, and the 7/8 bracelet sleeve. I have always wanted 3/4 sleeves on my wedding dress and because my arms are so short they ended up being perfect! I also chose the ivory lining.
Honestly, I'm not sure if it had a specific theme or style. I think if I had to give it a name it would be "Zoë's style." So many people came up to me and said things like, "if you were a venue, you would be this one," and "this dress is SO YOU." I don't think there could have been a better compliment than that.
My husband is the youngest of seven children and I am the oldest of two. I am the type of person that has a very specific vision in my head, and I wanted to make that come to life. Our families were there to help decorate our reception on the day of but I did all the planning myself. In hindsight, I wish I would have hired an event planner/decorator because then I could have enjoyed our reception a little bit more. But, it was still the best day of my life. We kept the guest list to a tight 50 people and had people wear masks when they weren't around their families.
We were married in my sister in law's church lawn in April 2020, sealed in the Manti, Utah LDS Temple in August 2020, and held a reception at the White Shanty Venue in Provo, Utah that same day. I was so grateful to be able to have our sealing take place in the Manti Temple because that is where my husband's parents were married. His mom passed away a couple of years ago, so it was so special to be in this sacred place. His parents, grandparents, and great grandparents were all sealed in the same room as we were. Needless to say, it was so tender and special. Our reception at the White Shanty venue was beautiful. I chose it because of its natural light, greenery, and beautiful sliding barn doors. This venue really made our whole reception perfect.
My husband and I carefully curated the playlist ourselves. We wanted it to be full of all of our favorite songs because this day was all about us! Our first dance song was "Grow As We Go" by Ben Platt (I'm a pretty huge fan of his). Our dance playlist included "I Want It That Way" (a true bop) and my husband's favorite slow song, "Die A Happy Man." Although we did take one request from our nephew who is seriously OBSESSED with "baby shark." That might have been the best song of the night.
My favorite moment of our reception was during the dancing portion. Everyone around us was happy and dancing with the people that they love and we were dancing with each other. I just looked around, and I think that's the moment I realized how truly happy we were to be there with our families and with each other.
We had an AMAZING florist in Foxglove Flowers in Provo, Utah. They really made my floral dreams come true. I'd also like to give a shoutout to Chipotle who catered our reception in the middle of a pandemic when caterers weren't really available. My makeup artist was Savanah Norma @savanahnormanmua! Our photographer, Hallie Bush, no longer does photography but she owns a super cute Harry Potter-themed boutique now so go check her out @TheCommonRoomShop. Our videographer, Madison Hafen Films (@madisonhafenfilms) gave us the video of my dreams by filming our elopement and our sealing day, as well as our reception. She stitched all of our events together perfectly.
The best advice I can give you is to do what feels right and do what feels like you. Don't try to cater to everyone because it is impossible. This is the only day in your life that is 100% about you and your partner. I am so grateful that I didn't try to be someone else. I just tried to give my friends and family my version of the perfect day. Because they all know and love us, it made them happy to see us have our perfect day, and they were happy to be a part of it too.
In hindsight, I would hire a wedding planner/decorator to help me fully achieve my vision. I did all right on my own, but that would have really been helpful on the day of.
I love being able to wake up next to my husband every morning. There is such a feeling of honesty and a sense of security that came with our marriage. It was there before but now it just feels so much more solid, if that makes any sense. Marriage is hard but it is so so worth it when it's with the right person.
Congratulations, Zoë and Teancum! Wishing you all the happiness in the world together.
Zoe is wearing The Ari dress in natural lining with a 12 in. sweep train.